The Social Aspect Of Camming – by “LiviaChoice”

The Social Aspect Of Camming – by “LiviaChoice”

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THE SOCIAL ASPECT OF CAMMING

by LiviaChoice

After working for seven years in the Live Cam Industry as WebCam Model and ten years studying – simultaneously while working how relationships work in Cyberspace, I am happy to present this article as a result of one of my theories about the business. Fortunately, I have had the opportunity to apply and successfully prove the effectiveness of my argument in practice, which I have also discussed in a few Seminars and Summits around the world: the urgency of considering the importance of human interaction between models and members (building connections) on all cam site platforms.

livia_choiceIt’s important to reiterate that when live cam sites began to appear, there was very little distinction between porn websites and the Live Cam Industry. Back then, access to porn wasn’t as freely available as it is nowadays and members were mostly looking for sex. In the beginning, it was likely that many porn customers could have been live cam chat customers too. These days you can find all kinds of free porn; trying to compete with free porn by asking a live model to try to imitate a recorded video is a losing battle. Asking the model to tease non-stop in free live chat simply can’t compete with Porn Videos because of internal factors like mood, hunger, thirst and even sometimes plain boredom.  Instead, the option that makes the most sense to me as a model is to focus on the key factor that porn sites can´t match – the live interaction between the model and the guest.

 

I have tested my own theory lately and as a communication scientist, I am very proud to say that my empirical research had shown the results I was hoping for. The intent of this article is to share with models and others who work in other positions of the Live Cam Industry what I have learned about how to deal with members in the room (both Free Live Chat and Private Video Chat), optimizing the time spent online.

Since my beggining, I have always worked on just once platform, without trying any others. Recently, I was extended a very kind invitation to start camming on a new website. While I was really thankful for the opportunity, it also made me open my eyes and remember something that I had almost forgotten: when a model starts working on a new cam site, she has no fame and no regulars, she needs to educate her members in the room and teach them how to respect her by giving her nothing less than the treatment she deserves.

 

In order to have longer private chats, with more talkative, friendly and respectful guests, all I needed to do was to change my attitude towards the members. I’ve changed my profile, and added a description that was in accordance with what I genuinely expected to receive in my living room. By having the patience to put up with “aggressive behavior in the room”, I explained to all members that I am not a living doll, but a human being just like them, who was interested in having fun together and not interested in simply following a script. Besides that, in as gently and kindly as possible, I also remind them throughout our conversations that the better I’m treated, the better and more engaged I’ll be while performing for them.

I think the most important thing to note is that I have lost my fear of losing out on making money by adopting this stance. Statistically, impolite guests (the “do this, do that” types) never stay in the room for more than a few minutes anyway (and are also the ones who give us bad ratings, negatively impacting our position on the site). So let’s just keep in mind the loyalty-loving interactions are the ones who spend a lot of money (even if they are looking for sexual content).

 

livia_choice1My results have not been achieved by “luck”, but for a scientific reason. Theorists who study Theories of Media, Communication and Imaginary identify in postmodernity a kind of society where the more the resources, techniques, and possibilities that man has to communicate, the more fragile the social bonds. However, although social ties are more fragile, generating the growing feeling of loneliness and increasing the difficulty of knowing how to deal with others in a human relationship (even virtual), this doesn’t mean that people are closed off – they just don’t know how to interact anymore. People don’t know how to communicate with each other nowadays because the social values of our society are more focused on being fascinated by entertainment and constructions of the media, which really don’t feed our emotional or cultural needs. A live cam model can fill a part of this emotional gap by offering social interaction; however, having the patience to deal with the initial aggressiveness is essential.

The objectification (represented in this situation by the famous monosyllabic slogans without any human interaction: “naked”, toys”, “moan my name”, “cum now”, etc.) can be frustrating, but it’s a sexist result of a patriarchal culture, which has endured for millennia. What makes me truly happy is the most important part – members can be educated if you teach them how to behave. Even better, it appears as though they actually want to learn because they also miss the social interactions in their lives. Cam models can be the emotional bond that they are so desperately missing (and don’t even know). Keep in mind this is a manifestation of patience, dedication and love – and they can feel it. The result after just a few days/weeks of doing this is truly amazing!

-LiviaChoice- Communication Scientist with P.h.D & Webcam Performer [ImLive]

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13 COMMENTS

  1. I enjoyed every word of this interview. Models set the rules of their own rooms and set the tone between them and the guests. It’s important to understand that in order to achieve this level of respect, it’s required a lot of work .

  2. Thank you Livia for taken this up. I appreciate that you highlighted the social aspect of camming.
    Indeed it is really a social work all camgirls/camboys give to the society. Next to giving pervs a home to living up their fantasies (gosh if those had not you how much more “violance” whould be around), it is the missing communication and recognition (also fascination) that brings members to return to a model. It seem to be much more easier for people to share thoughts, fears and needs to an person that is not connected to real life. By sharing those many feel a release of stress, feeling good after.
    Does it sound like laying on a couch at a psychoanalist? Well some similarities are there.
    To turn this into business: Those who care about life and living of their members will have a more closer relations and this is the key to understand additional needs that could be covered in more “services”.

  3. Brilliant. LiviaChoice clearly deserves her reputation as the industry’s foremost intellectual (although newcomer AnnieO is giving her a run for her money).

    Cam models are doing more than doctors, therapists or churches to relieve the profound alienation of contemporary existence. We need more articles like this one to explore this brave new world in which we live.

  4. Livia has definitely touched on a very relevant issue that should be explored by both producers and consumers of cam product in this day and age. Being more from the consumer side I can appreciate her discussion about how models can interact with guests in this world. Where face-to-face communication is being pushed aside by those who would champion interaction-on-demand.

    Livia’s insight and use of scholarship to help untangle such a diverse, yet unappreciated, service now provided by cam models for their guests is illuminating and should be used as a “user’s manual” for all future web-based interaction in the future.

    If I did have one suggestion for the article it would be aimed more at awnews.com than at the author. I find it curious that a thesis of this depth is not accompanied by a photo of Livia rather than the illustration that was chosen for publication. I would understand if this was a fluff piece or filler, but this is an educated attempt to aid people in the industry with the challenges being faced today. It would have been nice to have a picture of the author to put a face with this fine article.

  5. I thoroughly enjoyed this article. It showed that the webcam model is more than a pornographic doll on the computer. Liviachoice is absolutely gorgeous, (you should have a picture of her in the byline of the article), but it is her intelligence that intrigues me.
    Let me state that I have been a fan of hers for several years now. I see her regularly because of the interaction that we have. Even though we have been raised in different cultures and even different languages we have conversations that cover a broad range of subjects. That is what keeps our relationship from getting stale, and keeps me coming back to see her.

  6. Livia has definitely touched on a very relevant issue that should be explored by both producers and consumers of cam product in this day and age.  Being more from the consumer side I can appreciate her discussion about how models can interact with guests in this world. Where face-to-face communication is being pushed aside by those who would champion interaction-on-demand. 

    Livia’s insight and use of scholarship to help untangle such a diverse, yet unappreciated, service now provided by cam models for their guests is illuminating and should be used as a “user’s manual” for all future web-based interaction.

    If I did have one suggestion for the article it would be aimed more at awnews.com than at the author.  I find it curious that a thesis of this depth is not accompanied by a photo of Livia rather than the illustration that was chosen for publication.  I would understand if this was a fluff piece or filler, but this is an educated attempt to aid people in the industry with the challenges being faced today.  It would have been nice to have a picture of the author to put a face with this fine article.

  7. We’re living in a world in which many have difficulties communicating their feelings because maybe of the education they have brought up in or maybe out of fear of rejection. Also a cam model may be put in a difficult position when it comes to engaging in a conversation with a member. It takes a lot of dedication, patience and research to achieve that level of understanding the deep needs and desires of another person. A new model may struggle at the beginning because we aren’t used/ taught to really have a conversation with our peers. So that’s a challenge. For others things may come natural.

  8. It’s interesting to see how a study in humanity can give a more human, even more intimate, virtual experience online through cam chat. As we progress beyond face to face relationships it’s nice to know that there are great minds pioneering guidelines and norms that will shape those future interactions for all those to come. I’ve been a fan of Livia for her entire career and she continues to surprise me.

  9. I’m not really surprised Livia put out yet another well thought-out article about the social sciences of camwork. It’s kind of a reflection of changes in our society as we move more and more away from direct social interactions. Things we were uncomfortable saying face-to-face become normal and accepted when hidden behind walls of anonymity. People are unlearning basic concepts taught to them at pre-school/kindergarten levels about how to treat people, and the ability to isolate themselves from standard societal interactions as they get older is a product of that.

  10. Wow Livia, thank you for sharing this article! I have been in the field for far less time, but I also believe that the social and human aspect is more important than the sexual aspect!
    And actually, the sex part also has a huge social importance, as online we are living fantasies that would be deemed “unacceptable” in real life.

    I wish to meet you at an event: that would be awesome to discuss this with a fellow camgirl!

  11. Thank you for this highly interesting article! How can it be that I had not seen it until now?
    All the points are clearly explained and sustained, this is a pleasure to read. And as a matter of fact, I agree 100%!

  12. The attitude towards members is what makes them come back in your room. It takes a lot of patience and a lot of consistency. I do think that we live in a society that wants to live after a written script and when we forget that script we don’t know how to act or react.

  13. Well said Livia. I could imagine that the demanding ones are probably just that guy that is looking to get off. Meaning, they are just treating you like your an object rather than an actual person. This has got to hurt someones mental well-being, as well. I wouldn’t be surprised if a lot of freemium camgirls have a lot of mental problems later on down the road.

    I have a theory on why marriages and relationships fail a lot in today’s society. For men, I really believe that they are attracted to a female first by her looks. However, he might find her super attractive, but personally, they don’t connect.

    So, then 5-10 years go by and they age and realize that the physical attraction isn’t there anymore. They then get a divorce and their relationship has failed because they didn’t connect on a personal level.

    Case and point, I remember back in college there was a girl that was just smoking hot. However, her personality wasn’t one that connected with me. I kind of found her rude, hateful, etc. Seriously, didn’t have a good sense of humor so it’s someone that wouldn’t be a good match for me. So, in this scenario, the relationship probably wouldn’t have worked. While true I might have been very attracted to her we didn’t connect on a personal level.

    It could go the same way if I was super hot, but the women didn’t find my personality stimulating, fun, etc.

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