“No price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” ― Nietzche
In the interests of full disclosure, I would like to state that this article is not promotional/marketing material, nor a tutorial with tips for models to join any specific Live Cam Site. The discussion is focused on the social aspect of cam sites and the importance and impact of social interactions on the quality of both personal and work life.
I previously discussed the social aspect of camming considering the way members treat models and I also gave some tips for models to help educate rude and impolite members in their room but now it’s time to reflect on the social aspect of camming taking into consideration the quality of life that any given cam site can offer a webcam model.
Along with my prior knowledge about camming and communication studies, I have no reservations in stating that the care and concern regarding the mental health and well-being of models is an essential element that tends to help them work better and more often, in a healthier and more efficient manner – and even from the capitalist point of view, that makes total business sense and results in lucrative benefits for the industry. The logic in question is basically the following (or should, at the very least, be along these lines): in order to sell entertainment, the model must have the capacity to be mentally healthy in order to offer said entertainment, while feeling genuinely entertained, respected and protected. Feeling respected and protected helps guarantee an honest smile on your (the model’s) face and includes the social aspect, not only on the members side but also from the perspective of the cam site itself – that’s why it’s absolutely essential for the sanity of the model to choose the cam site that most closely matches your own personality and lifestyle.
I have been dedicating nearly all of my free time to reflecting, studying and analyzing this theme so that I am able to speak with knowledge, modesty, and confidence about social bonds, how they’re built and their importance to, and impact on the quality of our personal and work lives. Communication is an intentional act of involvement and not random interaction. Human nature is essentially communicative (gregarious) and we need each other not only to survive (a baby couldn’t survive without someone to take care of it, just as any isolated adult would lose their sanity if left completely on their own) but to be happy and mentally healthy. However, it’s important to keep in mind that emotional bonds are not created “out of nowhere” nor “overnight,” rather, they are constructed from the trust, achievable only over time. To contextualize, I am going to quote one of my favorite authors (French doctor, ethologist, neurologist, and psychiatrist), Boris Cyrulnik: “It is necessary, therefore, to belong. To belong to no one [nowhere] is to become nobody.” In other words, the social bond generates a sense of belonging and communion – exactly how a cam model must feel about the site she is working with: part of a community. And the main feelings related to belonging to a community are respect and protection – as both a professional as well as a human being.
I define the terms “respect” and “protection” taking into consideration:
- the website’s policy (related to the quality of the cam site tools – if it was created with the intent to protect and safeguard their models, regardless of market competition);
- the quality of the traffic sent to you (members interested in building virtual relationships with you instead of demanding the model follow a “script” without any social interaction – the famous “do this/do that” type of members);
- the interaction with their representatives (how attentive and close they are to their models if they are genuinely interested in helping and supporting them).
In my opinion, this is the only conceivable way for models to be the best entertainers they can possibly be, by offering members a great natural show while having fun, and most importantly: without hurting themselves! We all know that the human mind tends to survive, making it completely adaptable – even to the scarcest of situations. That means that after some time developing and continually repeating the same activity, in the same conditions (whatever/however they are), the tendency of our mind is complete said activity automatically, on “auto-pilot,” no longer “feeling” it. However, despite the “anaesthesia” of the moment, we can’t hide the consequences: depression, stress, anxiety, insomnia, etc. It’s not a coincidence that several studies regarding stress and its impact on daily life indicate that small daily stresses cause the greatest number of mental health issues. As such, my suggestion is for all models to refuse to accept as “normal” or “traditional” anything and everything which torments you (regardless of the amount of money involved). From my point of view, being a webcam model absolutely needs to be an exercise of freedom, and freedom means the autonomy of saying “NO” to anything and everything that is beyond your limits or outside of your comfort zone (you are the only one who can define the limit – it’s not at all a question of “everybody else is doing this or that, so you must imitate them in order to be successful as well” – you can forge your own path to success, just by expressing yourself!).
Success is a state of mind related to our mental health, not a position on a website or visibility in the Industry. We are all much more than a number or award title, which can (and will) be replaced at some point. However, the social bonds that we build and what we learn (especially about ourselves), is lasting. One of the consequences of seeing yourself as a number or as the title of some award is the intense competition – rather than positive cooperation – between models, commonly resulting in bullying among one another. In psychological terms, when you start seeing yourself as something (an award, a position, a number, an object of teasing and nothing more) instead of someone (who will never be replaced because you are unique and special), you lose consideration for yourself as a human being and obviously through the process, lose respect for everyone else by your side (meaning, in this case, other models). This is yet another reason that motivates me to continue my hard work in the Industry as well as my research about the social aspect of camming.
As a final takeaway, I would like to say that the more active I become in the Industry, the more satisfied I feel about the choices that I’ve made for myself related to the cam site I work with. However, I would also like to remind all readers that people are unique, with different personalities and for each individual, there is likely a cam site which best fits with the lifestyle of that particular model. With love and dedication, every model can be successful, independent of the site or platform that she chooses.
-LiviaChoice- Communication Scientist with P.h.D & Webcam Performer [ImLive]
More details about LiviaChoice:
Independent Webcam Performer (ImLive). The First & Only Writing Model with articles in all major industry magazines (AVN, AW News, YNOT, XBIZ). Prominent speaker at adult webcam industry events (AWSummit, LALEXPO, TheEuropeanSummit, WebmasterAccess). Pioneer in the discussion of emotional issues regarding camming. Communication Scientist with a PhD, currently developing an unprecedented theory, entitled “the social aspect of camming” (centered on the emotional connections built between models and members, models and camsites/studios, and interactions between the models themselves). Completely new and original perspective based on scientific arguments learned in more than ten years of study in Cyberculture together with eight years camming. Academic businesswoman interested in bringing the Adult Entertainment Industry the first thought-provoking reflection focused on how social bonds are structured on online platforms with the purpose of showing how it would simultaneously be more productive and efficient for models, members and Industry at large. The concept of “the social aspect of camming” explains it’s fundamental to understand the necessities of our society because it’s the only feasible way for models to understand member needs in videochat and from this understanding, build connections (virtual bonds) with them. Just like it’s essential for camsites/studios to start paying attention to the needs of models as human beings, offering them the quality of life in order to obtain their loyalty – which is much more profitable considering the current landscape of the Industry because model loyalty comes with their member loyalty (fan base). Officially recognized “The Pioneer Showcase” by Cam Life Magazine (2018). The European Summit Co-Host (Cascais-Lisbon/ Portugal, 2018). Hall of Fame – Inductee Class (AWA, 2018). Cam Girl of the Year Winner (AWA, 2017). ImLive Excellence & Loyalty Winner (LCA, 2017). Favorite Cam Girl Nominee (AVN, 2018, 2017). Best Cam Model [Latin America] Nominee (XBIZ, 2018, 2017). Best Female Webcam Model Nominee (Lalexpo, 2018). Best Live Cam Female Model & Live Cam Celebrity of the Year Nominee (LCA, 2018). Best Entertainer & Social Media Nominee (AW, 2017). Independent Model of the Year Nominee (Ynot, 2017). Social Media Star Winner (AW, 2016).